Ricky S's Premature Ejaculation (3)

The first step with Ricky was to make him a bit more comfortable with sex; he’d had a restricted sexual education so we talked about why and how men and women become aroused, the physical changes that can be expected, and the usual patterns of behaviour which develop. I’ve given him some exercises to try at home which should encourage exploration and relaxation.

He was keen to try a behavioural method of controlling ejaculation. This means gradually changing a behaviour step-by-step until the new behaviour is more natural then the old one. Ricky was ejaculating after about 20 seconds of masturbation and I wanted to change that behaviour and increase his time to ejaculation. The best way to do this is by practising with masturbation. Every man reaches a point at which ejaculation is inevitable, the trick with controlling  premature/rapid ejaculation is to recognise when that point is near and then stop the pleasurable stimulation. With practice (the step-by-step changes), many men can increase their length of time before ejaculating. There are two main techniques:

1. The Stop-Start Method
2. The Squeeze Technique
   

Ricky was keener on the stop-start method and I’ll describe this in his next post.